Female ejaculation and squirting have so many (so many!) fans, and it’s top of millions of sexual bucket lists. We get oodles of questions on this hot topic: What is it? Can everyone do it? How can I make my partner squirt?
We’ll address the questions in reverse, just to save your time. If you are on this page because you want to learn how to make your partner ejaculate or squirt, you might as well leave now. Because that’s not how it works. Ejaculation and squirting usually have little to do with the partner and lots to do with the vulva-owner. It’s their body that’s releasing fluids, after all. Those who squirt or ejaculate can usually do so without a partner anyway, so in a way, you might be surplus to the squirting. Sorry.
Ok, great – we got that out of the way. It’s time to talk about ejaculatory fluids!
Can Everyone Squirt?
If you’re still reading, we’ll assume it’s because you are genuinely interested in this phenomenon. Not enough study has gone into the science of female ejaculation and squirting so, unfortunately, we don’t have the answer to the question: ‘Can everyone squirt?‘ But let’s talk a bit more about it.
This is from speaking to customers and colleagues over many years, so take what comes next with a pinch of salt – it’s not been scientifically proven.
OK, here goes: It seems to us that there are two main ways of engaging your pelvic floor during sex play.
- Squeezing in and pulling up
- Releasing and pushing out
We think that the second group – the releasers – are the ones that find squirting easier. This makes sense when you think about it. Regular squirters often describe it as a release, saying they feel a need to ‘push out.’ We’d love your thoughts on this, so feel free to leave us a comment below the blog post. Are you a squirter, and if so, do you pull up or push out your pleasure?
Lola-Jean: World Volume Squirting Record Holder
You can possibly learn how to squirt if you are willing to put in the work. We believe that hydration and excellent control of the pelvic floor make all the difference, as does the confidence to let go, even if it feels like you might pee. If you want to learn more about squirting, there is no better place than Lola Jean’s website. Lola Jean broke science in 2019 when she squirted 1250 ml and was crowned the World Volume Squirting Record Holder.
While we’re talking about volume, we should talk about what to expect in terms of fluid expelled. Some squirt lots (not as much as Lola Jean – she’s an Olympian athlete!), and others squirt only a few drops. In fact, it’s possible to be unaware of squirting. We all like to blame the wet patch on our partners, but it might be our own fluids!
In fact, many folks who squirt lots during most sexual encounters find it annoying. As one of our good friends said: Once you have turned the tap on, it’s hard to turn it off again! It’s common for squirters who release lots of fluid to use towels, blankets, or puppy pads to soak it up.
Is Female Ejaculation and Squirting the Same Thing?
Again, from countless conversations with customers & colleagues over the past 3 decades, we believe female ejaculation and squirting are different phenomena.
- Female ejaculate is a creamy, white-ish fluid released from the Bartholin’s glands located just inside the opening of the vagina. According to this 2011 study, female ejaculate contains some of the same components as semen, including prostate-specific antigen (PSA).
- Squirting fluid comes from the Skene’s glands located on the front wall of the vagina, surrounding the urethra. It contains traces of urine but isn’t urine.
Despite being different, there are some similarities. Levels of arousal, position, and technique are all important but vary from person to person. For some, G-spot stimulation does the trick. For others, only clitoral play teases forth a gush of pleasure.
Ejaculation and squirting can happen before an orgasm, during an orgasm, or after an orgasm. For many, squirting or ejaculating has nothing to do with orgasm at all. Some can make it happen almost on cue, but it’s unexpected for others. We have been told that many regular ejaculators and squirters find that it doesn’t add to their pleasure. It’s pleasurable in its own way, but it doesn’t necessarily enhance the orgasm.
Best Toys for Female Ejaculation & Squirting
These are two toys we recommend if you are interested in further exploring your own potential for ejaculation and squirting: The Sh! Glass G-spot dildo and Satisfyer Pro2 Next Generation suction toy. Using these two together seems to hit the pleasure spots in all the right ways. The Satisfyer Pro2 uses advanced air technology to “suck” and stimulate the clitoris while massaging the glass dildo against the G-spot with a firm “come hither” motion that encourages this erogenous zone to play along.
Make sure you are really, really turned on, but don’t allow yourself to orgasm. Keep playing and building arousal and if you experience a sensation of needing to let go, just go with it. You might squirt, or you might not – let your body do what it wants to.
Should You Try It?
Squirting is trendy, and porn sites are full of wet videos (varying levels of authenticity), and we know many of our customers are curious. We’re not convinced there’s a huge need to go chasing female ejaculation or squirting unless you particularly want to. If squirting or female ejaculation doesn’t tickle your pickle, then you can choose to focus on other erotic play.
If your interest has been piqued, then why not? There is no limit to pleasure, and you might find something you really enjoy exploring. Have fun!