The G-spot, a mythical spot of pleasure that only the lucky few can find with the help of a detailed vag-map or complete ballcockery made up to make women feel inadequate if they’re unable to find theirs?
Well, a bit of both.
First things first: The G-spot isn’t a spot as such, it’s more of an area. And it would have been a lot easier for all of us if some clever-clogs hadn’t decided to name it after Dr. Ernst Gräfenberg, the man who ‘discovered’ it. However well-meaning, naming it in his honor, the Gräfenberg-spot indicates that it is indeed a spot – a magical button that unleashes untold pleasures when pressed in just the right way.
Is the G-spot real?
Research into the internal pleasure-workings of the female body hasn’t yet uncovered the whole truth. More recently, research has found that the G-spot forms a part of the larger internal clitoral structure – an intra-connection of pleasure junctions. So our customers can easily understand which body part we’re writing about, we’ll continue to call it the G-spot, even though it’s not a spot. A ‘pleasure area’ would be a more accurate description, but there are so many of those already!
If you pop a finger in and up on the front wall of the vagina, you’ll find an area that’s less smooth than the rest of the vagina – this the G-spot.
The G-spot is part of the urethral sponge, which encompasses sensitive nerve-endings. As the body gets turned on, blood flows to this spongy area. The sponge becomes congested and expands, the G-spot swells and becomes easier to both locate and stimulate. Some find this intensely arousing, but others find it merely ‘meh’ or downright irritating.
Everybody is different – you may find you don’t love having your G-spot stimulated, but it’s worth taking some time to explore the area, just in case you do like it…
How to pleasure the G-Spot
Playing with your G-spot will most likely make you feel like you need to go for a pee, so doing this beforehand lets you relax and focus on pleasure.
The more turned on you are, the more blood flows to the area, and the easier it becomes to locate the G-spot. Therefore, arousal is essential before you go G-spotting.
When you feel turned on and ready for more, slip one or one or two lubed-up fingers into your vagina and curl them up towards your belly-button. The G-spot is located around 2-3 inches inside, and you should be able to feel this bumpy area with your fingertips. Massage it with firm come-hither motions.
You might feel an urgent need to pee at this point – it means you’ve found the right area! If you’ve already been for a pee, ignore it and push through. Chances are, the sensation will likely turn into intense pleasure! (If there’s a genuine concern about wetting the bed, just put down a towel and carry on playing.)
Stimulating the G-spot with your hand can be tiring. Using a G-spot toy with a long-ish handle means you can relax your wrist and focus on pleasure instead. Use the curved or angled tip to tease and “juice” firmly against the G-spot. Stroking the clit at the same time helps boost arousal and pleasure.
What if it doesn’t respond to stimulation?
Customers & colleagues have shared that their G-spots became more sensitive later in life, so don’t worry if yours isn’t responding to stimulation yet. We’re not sure why this might be, but it could be to do with the changing landscape of our wondrous vaginas as we go through life. Some say they discovered theirs after vaginal childbirth; others say they discovered theirs as they got older and their vaginal membranes grew thinner. Either way, enjoy pleasure and play and try not to focus too much on finding the “right” spot.
But – if you feel your G-spot needs a kick-start, a G-spot enhancing gel or serum can help things along. Applying a small amount of enhancing gel or serum to the G-spot helps bring blood to the area and makes it far more sensitive and responsive to touch.